Whoever Is Happy

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“Monday Motivation!”

“Whoever is happy will make others happy too…”

~ Anne Frank

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to make yourself happy? Why?

Because..You know exactly

What you want

How much you want

When you want it

Why you want it

I love flowers.  All kinds, all colors, all fragrances, just flowers.  They are so bright and cheery and they make me bright and cheery.  They just make me feel good, all warm and fuzzy.  Where and how I get them doesn’t matter, only that I get them.  On the happiness scale of 1-10, I am at a full 10!

If my husband or my children or even my grandchildren get me flowers, I absolutely love it.  On a happiness scale of 1-10,  I bust the scale with an 11.  Still, the point is flowers.  And the point is, I don’t sit around wishing someone would make me happy by getting me flowers.  I get them myself because it makes me happy.  How easy it that?

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to make yourself happy?

Yet, it is so difficult to make someone else happy (for any length of time anyway).

There is a great discussion at Ian’s blog about the affect of each person involved in trying to make someone else happy.  In the end, I don’t think either is happy.   That adds insult to injury as they say.

If it is important to you that others are happy and if what Anne Frank said is true, “Whoever is happy will make others happy too…” then we all know what to do.

Concentrate on yourself first.

Everyone says that.  You see that everywhere, you hear that everywhere.  Why do people feel the need to keep repeating it?  Because sometimes it is hard to comprehend.  At least for some people.  I have had discussions with others, usually women, who feel it is selfish to think of themselves first.

It is time to change your thoughts in that regard. You cannot save someone else if you don’t first save yourself. If you change your thoughts, you change your world.

I, for one, have to remind myself frequently that I am important too.

Do you find yourself struggling to make someone else happy?  Do you find that if you are happy it is contagious to those around you?

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When All Is Said And Done

“Monday Motivation!”

“When all is said and done, more is said than done…”
~ Lou Holtz

Scenario One:

Everyone is sitting around the kitchen table discussing the most recent dilemma and how it should be handled.  All of the wisdom is here to help.    “I would do this and I would do that or maybe you should do this.”

Scenario Two:

Everyone knows what the dilemma is.   They know what course you are on or which one you chose.  Everyone knows about it. Now everyone has even more wisdom.  You get to hear what they would have done after you have already entered into your action plan!  You know, the shoulda, woulda, coulda advice.  Or, “I could have done that for you, why didn’t you ask me?” Yeah, annoying.

Scenario Three:

I want to do this.  I want to do that.  Or I’m going to do this and I’m going to do that.  You get the point.

So, are you the type?  More is said than done? Actually, it’s not really another scenario.  It’s my true confessions.

I guess I am guilty of more is said than done sometimes.  I’m not sure what percentage I would confess to.

I’m probably more the “do as I say not as I do” type.   I have alot of brilliant ideas.  I know exactly what to do in most any situation.  Aw, if only I was as good at practicing what I preach.

What about you?

I kind of know alot of people like that.  Do you know the type?  The more than said is done type?  Do most people have that attitude?

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You Decide What Kind Of Person To Be

“Monday Motivation!”

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

That is a powerful statement and somewhat contentious.  Is there any truth to this manifesto?

Yes and No.  I love that answer.

Let’s deal with the declaration that – No, it is not entirely true.

It could be argued that the person you are destined to be is formed right from the start.  Your parents determine what kind of person you will be.  You are taught what to do, how to act, what is appropriate behavior, what is inappropriate behavior.  You are even taught what to like, what to not like.

You are an infant, a toddler, a child – you believe what you are told.  It is who you are.

Then you become an impressionable teenager.  You start to make some choices of your own.  Your friends know more than your parents, it’s time to follow them.

This is where – Yes, you become the person you decide to be.

“CHOICE”

–noun

an act or instance of choosing, selection;

the right, power, or opportunity to choose;

option carefully selected

Choice – therein lies the problem.  That is where you need to take personal responsibility.  You truly are the only one who can choose for you.

Yes, I understand there are pressures.  I myself feel compelled to do or say certain things I may not really want to but when it gets right down to it…you and you alone are responsible for who you are and what you do.

It is your day by day actions that speak louder than words.  Again, guilty of that one.  I have voiced my opinion one way and acted another.  It’s easier to say than do?  Totally true.

So, at the end of the day it can be said that your parents tried to mold your character as they saw right but it doesn’t always work out that way.  You can choose to live by and adopt their values or you can choose not to.  I am not saying either way is right or wrong, I’m saying the choice is yours, you decide what kind of person to be.

What do you think?  Do you see situations that might argue against this theory?

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Defeat Is Not The Worst..

“Monday Motivation!”

Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure.

~ George Edward Woodberry

You know I have said time and again “What’s the worst that can happen?” in regards to making decisions. If you have that attitude and use that philosophy to guide you with your choices, and you can live with whatever the “worst” is, then it is easier to go for it.

It sounds so easy. In order to succeed your desire for success has to be stronger than your fear of failure.  These type of quotes must speak to me loudly because I usually choose them.

It does resonate with me because fear stops me from doing a lot of things. Most of the time I don’t even know what I am afraid of.  Sometimes I think I have somewhat pinpointed the fear or think I know what is stopping me, but it usually sounds so silly that I don’t believe I have realized what the fear is.

• Fear of failure.

• What will people think?

• I will look silly.

These are all “who cares” excuses.   I have been amazed with myself at my courage with some events in my life and have also been just as amazed at the extreme paralyzing fear that has stopped me from the smallest challenges.

So what really stops a person from trying to be successful?  All of the above and then some.  What can  a person do to overcome these fears?

Usually previous successes  inspire me to try new challenges.  If I can pull that off, I can certainly do this.

This post doesn’t have all the answers.  More like all the questions.

What do you do to overcome your fears?  What drives you to face your challenges?

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