You Decide What Kind Of Person To Be

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“Monday Motivation!”

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

That is a powerful statement and somewhat contentious.  Is there any truth to this manifesto?

Yes and No.  I love that answer.

Let’s deal with the declaration that – No, it is not entirely true.

It could be argued that the person you are destined to be is formed right from the start.  Your parents determine what kind of person you will be.  You are taught what to do, how to act, what is appropriate behavior, what is inappropriate behavior.  You are even taught what to like, what to not like.

You are an infant, a toddler, a child – you believe what you are told.  It is who you are.

Then you become an impressionable teenager.  You start to make some choices of your own.  Your friends know more than your parents, it’s time to follow them.

This is where – Yes, you become the person you decide to be.

“CHOICE”

–noun

an act or instance of choosing, selection;

the right, power, or opportunity to choose;

option carefully selected

Choice – therein lies the problem.  That is where you need to take personal responsibility.  You truly are the only one who can choose for you.

Yes, I understand there are pressures.  I myself feel compelled to do or say certain things I may not really want to but when it gets right down to it…you and you alone are responsible for who you are and what you do.

It is your day by day actions that speak louder than words.  Again, guilty of that one.  I have voiced my opinion one way and acted another.  It’s easier to say than do?  Totally true.

So, at the end of the day it can be said that your parents tried to mold your character as they saw right but it doesn’t always work out that way.  You can choose to live by and adopt their values or you can choose not to.  I am not saying either way is right or wrong, I’m saying the choice is yours, you decide what kind of person to be.

What do you think?  Do you see situations that might argue against this theory?

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I Tried, I Really Did

“Monday Motivation!”

“If you can solve your problem, then what is the need of worrying?
If you cannot solve it, then what is the use of worrying?”
~ Shantideva

I’m not sure if you have arrived at the right place today. You might be hard pressed to find Monday Motivation here at BloggerNewbie.

The last few weeks have been rough to say the least. My 2 yr old grandson has been in remission for a little over 10 months and we had become accustomed to thinking about cancer only once or twice a day. Unfortunately, it is back and the “C” word consumes our thoughts and lives by the minute.

I found today’s quote while searching for wisdom and it certainly makes sense. Today it doesn’t make me feel much better, but it makes sense.

I tried to get motivated. It just wouldn’t come. It didn’t matter what I said to myself, I just couldn’t. I reminded myself of all the reasons why I needed to be positive. I gave myself a long talking to. It just wasn’t happening.

I have fallen off the perky pedestal. (On the inside).

I will keep trying to get up because that is my personality. Some “won’t give up – keep moving – no matter what” (annoying sometimes) characteristic deeply embedded in my soul. I try to ignore it, believe me, over the years, I have tried to cover up my head and stay in bed but whatever it is (in hindsight – thank goodness most of the time) deep inside, it just will not let me lay there.

I have written posts about Drake and his journey in the past under I don’t know where to begin. There is also a website set up at Caring Bridge – Drake Gratton that chronicles his story and thoughts from family and friends. Caring Bridge is a great not-for-profit site that allows our family the ease of keeping everyone updated.

So for today’s Monday Motivation – I must point you towards the reliable archives!

A few of my favorites:

Courage is..

Change your thoughts..

How do you react?

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Be Who You Are

“Monday Motivation!”

“Be who you are and be that well…”
~ Saint Francis de Sales

Be who you are and be that well. Sounds easy to me.  Who else are you going to be anyway?  One would think that being who you are is a natural flow.  That being who you are is the easy way out.  That being someone you aren’t would require a lot of time and skill.

Yes and no.

Very often, being yourself takes courage.  What if they don’t like me?  What if I say something or do something stupid?  So being someone else or being something that you are not may be the easy way out.

It doesn’t make sense to pretend to be something or someone you are not.  People can only be fake for so long then the “real you” will eventually come out.  When you grow into your comfort zone with someone, the real you settles in, slow but sure.  Imagine the shock of the other person when suddenly the little habits you once found so charming are now annoying to you?  What happened, she used to think it was cute when I left the toilet seat up?

In order to be who you are and be that well you need to know – Who are you?

Sounds like a silly question to some.  It is actually quite serious.  It is almost as difficult of a question to answer as “what do you want”.  I like to listen to my inner voice to guide me as to who I am.  I used to think I liked to paint and paper walls, turns out I just liked having it done.

It is often a struggle to be who you are when it conflicts with  others opinions or wants.  There can be confrontations that make you uncomfortable.  You have to ask yourself, what is more important – to be who I am or to be who someone else wants me to be?  We all know what that answer is.

When I struggle with who I am I remember and reflect on the two most powerful words .  Whatever I want, I am whatever I want to be, whatever I set my mind to be.  If you focus on who you are you are more successful of being who you are well.

I believe that if you be who you are and be that well people around you will appreciate the real authentic you sincerely and wholeheartedly.

Do you remember the last time you realized someone was not who you thought they were?  More importantly, do you remember the last time you realized you were not being who you really are?

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Change Your Thoughts

Monday Motivation!”

“Change your thoughts and you change your world…”
~ Norman Vincent Peale

If you reflect on this quote with a little attention you will realize the significance of these words.

Some days and some circumstances make it a little difficult to change your thoughts but if you want to then you will. Everyone has had “one of those” starts to the day.  You get out of bed, stub your toe, drop everything you pick up, you know the kind of morning that sets the tone for the day.

It doesn’t have to set the tone for the day.  Sit down for a minute.  Collect yourself.  Take a deep breath and ask yourself  “do I really want my whole day to be like this?”  You can have a good day if you want to have a good day. You might need a few minutes to convince yourself that today is going to be a good day, but you can do it!   And it is never too late.

If you notice half way through the day that it is not quite going the way you would like, change your thoughts and you will change your world. It works everytime for everyone.

Try it today.  Be aware of your thoughts, don’t encourage negative feelings, focus on happy!  You control your thoughts.  Nothing or no-one is in control of you but you.  Finally!  Doesn’t it feel good?  You and you alone are responsible for who you are and what you are.

Change your thoughts and you will change your world.

What do you think?  Have you tried this concept?

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