Whoever Is Happy

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“Monday Motivation!”

“Whoever is happy will make others happy too…”

~ Anne Frank

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to make yourself happy? Why?

Because..You know exactly

What you want

How much you want

When you want it

Why you want it

I love flowers.  All kinds, all colors, all fragrances, just flowers.  They are so bright and cheery and they make me bright and cheery.  They just make me feel good, all warm and fuzzy.  Where and how I get them doesn’t matter, only that I get them.  On the happiness scale of 1-10, I am at a full 10!

If my husband or my children or even my grandchildren get me flowers, I absolutely love it.  On a happiness scale of 1-10,  I bust the scale with an 11.  Still, the point is flowers.  And the point is, I don’t sit around wishing someone would make me happy by getting me flowers.  I get them myself because it makes me happy.  How easy it that?

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to make yourself happy?

Yet, it is so difficult to make someone else happy (for any length of time anyway).

There is a great discussion at Ian’s blog about the affect of each person involved in trying to make someone else happy.  In the end, I don’t think either is happy.   That adds insult to injury as they say.

If it is important to you that others are happy and if what Anne Frank said is true, “Whoever is happy will make others happy too…” then we all know what to do.

Concentrate on yourself first.

Everyone says that.  You see that everywhere, you hear that everywhere.  Why do people feel the need to keep repeating it?  Because sometimes it is hard to comprehend.  At least for some people.  I have had discussions with others, usually women, who feel it is selfish to think of themselves first.

It is time to change your thoughts in that regard. You cannot save someone else if you don’t first save yourself. If you change your thoughts, you change your world.

I, for one, have to remind myself frequently that I am important too.

Do you find yourself struggling to make someone else happy?  Do you find that if you are happy it is contagious to those around you?

Toodles – Blog Happy!

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Annoying or Helpful?

“Question of the Week? Vote in our Poll!”

“Annoying or Helpful?”

Do you appreciate it when someone points out a mistake or typo in your post or blog? Do you take criticism for what it is meant to be. Do you take offense to critiques?

Do you find it annoying or helpful?

Would it matter how the error is pointed out?

Private message:

If the “friendly” reader sends you an email message or sends you a message from your contact page, do you appreciate the information.

I don’t like typos.  I don’t like to see them and I especially don’t like to make them.  They are frustrating!  They hide while you are writing the post.  They only appear when you hit publish.  The same thing happens at work as well.

Public Comment:

What do you think when someone points out your mistakes in the comment section?  I don’t think anyone likes their mistakes made public.  So in this instance I might find it a tad annoying.

However, if I had to choose between a public comment pointing out my goof or not knowing at all, I would take the hit any day and go about my business.

What about you?

So as they say -  are you secure enough in yourself to take constructive and helpful criticism?

Toodles – Blog Happy!

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“No question is so difficult to answer as that to which the answer is obvious…”

~ George Bernard Shaw
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Misery Loves Company

“Misery Loves Company”

It has been my observation of late that the saying or cliche’ – misery loves company – is a totally true statement.

People follow the negative attitude like a herd.  The “herd” theory works everywhere you look, actions, attitude, etc.  Except, of course, when the leader of the herd is positive;  then the herd dissipates to follow other negative powers that be.   Do people find it easier to be negative?

Ian from Quantum Learning just wrote a post about the world wide garbage dump epidemic and it just gets me started on a roll of crabbing.

Actually the post or conversation was not negative.  The actions of some people was the discussion of negative.  I can’t help myself.  Hmmm, so it is true.  Crabby likes crabby.

Well, in this case, sort of.  We were just discussing how appalling it is to see the thoughtless disregard of the beauty of nature.   It is a common reaction for most people to be stunned by this outrage.  The act itself is what made me think of negative following negative not the discussion.

Why do people have a complete disregard for property of others?  They wouldn’t give it a thought to throw garbage in their own yard.  Well most wouldn’t.   I don’t get it.

This is just one example of negative following negative.  The real purpose of this post is to discuss how and/or why misery loves company.

I have noticed, for myself, the more people who are negative around me, the more negative I myself become.  Why is it that positive isn’t so contagious?  Positive is contagious to a degree.  But if you have a group of people with one positive leader and one negative leader you will find a bigger group following the negative leader.

I have even gone so far as to try and turn the conversation around to positive but eventually give up.  Then some time later I find myself being negative.  It is harder to bring yourself back from the glass half empty attitude.  How do you get people to see the glass as half full?  That there is a bright side somewhere in the midst of your ordeal?  Yeah, believe me – I know, sometimes it is buried.

Why is that?  Don’t most people want to be positive?  Don’t you hear people complain about negative attitudes?  [Hey, that sounds ironic].  What do you do to stay positive?  Why is there not a saying “blissfulness loves company?”

Toodles – Blog Happy!

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“The trick is in what one emphasizes.
We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy.
The amount of work is the same…”

~ Carlos Castaneda
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When All Is Said And Done

“Monday Motivation!”

“When all is said and done, more is said than done…”
~ Lou Holtz

Scenario One:

Everyone is sitting around the kitchen table discussing the most recent dilemma and how it should be handled.  All of the wisdom is here to help.    “I would do this and I would do that or maybe you should do this.”

Scenario Two:

Everyone knows what the dilemma is.   They know what course you are on or which one you chose.  Everyone knows about it. Now everyone has even more wisdom.  You get to hear what they would have done after you have already entered into your action plan!  You know, the shoulda, woulda, coulda advice.  Or, “I could have done that for you, why didn’t you ask me?” Yeah, annoying.

Scenario Three:

I want to do this.  I want to do that.  Or I’m going to do this and I’m going to do that.  You get the point.

So, are you the type?  More is said than done? Actually, it’s not really another scenario.  It’s my true confessions.

I guess I am guilty of more is said than done sometimes.  I’m not sure what percentage I would confess to.

I’m probably more the “do as I say not as I do” type.   I have alot of brilliant ideas.  I know exactly what to do in most any situation.  Aw, if only I was as good at practicing what I preach.

What about you?

I kind of know alot of people like that.  Do you know the type?  The more than said is done type?  Do most people have that attitude?

Toodles – Blog Happy!

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Personal, Professional or Both?

“Question of the Week? Vote in our Poll!”

Should blogs be totally personal or totally professional or a mixture of both?

The Personal Blog:

If the blog is personal, does a professional post mean anything?  Does it carry any weight or offer any authority?  Does the ratio of personal posts to professional posts make a difference?

The Professional Blog:

If the blog is professional should there ever be any personal information?  Will being personal diminish the professionalism of the content?

Both:

Can a blog be both personal and professional?  Can you blog about your weekend plans and activities then discuss business as usual on Monday?  Would you or do you like blogs with this kind of format?

What do you think?

Do you see any pros or cons with either type of blog or a mixed assortment?

Toodles – Blog Happy!

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“No question is so difficult to answer as that to which the answer is obvious…”

~ George Bernard Shaw<
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Changing Hosts? Step by Step How to.. Step 3 of 4

“Changing Hosts?  Step by Step How to.. Step 3 of 4″

Okay, we decided we needed to change hosts.   We had to get prepared and backup both our blog files and our data files.

Now it is time for step three.  Begin to familiarize yourself with the new host server.  You will have access to a file manager or control panel to be able to monitor, change and update your files.  You will also set up your email and user name to access your file transfer protocol software.

You can see from the screen shots below all of the service options to choose from.  You can familiarize yourself with each section before you switch over.  It is important to be confident with the database section as this is your blog data and post files.

Make sure website name is same.  When the new host server sets up your blog address make  sure it is the same as you are currently using.

My first set up of my blog was with another host server and they set up my blog as  www.bloggernewbie.com/blog vs www.bloggernewbie.com which doesn’t sound like a big deal only it is to those feed readers!  You can transfer your subscribers from one RSS feed to another but I am not real confident that it is a smooth transition.

Toodles – Blog Happy!

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“Things should be made as simple as possible, but not any simpler…”

~ Albert Einstein

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You Decide What Kind Of Person To Be

“Monday Motivation!”

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

That is a powerful statement and somewhat contentious.  Is there any truth to this manifesto?

Yes and No.  I love that answer.

Let’s deal with the declaration that – No, it is not entirely true.

It could be argued that the person you are destined to be is formed right from the start.  Your parents determine what kind of person you will be.  You are taught what to do, how to act, what is appropriate behavior, what is inappropriate behavior.  You are even taught what to like, what to not like.

You are an infant, a toddler, a child – you believe what you are told.  It is who you are.

Then you become an impressionable teenager.  You start to make some choices of your own.  Your friends know more than your parents, it’s time to follow them.

This is where – Yes, you become the person you decide to be.

“CHOICE”

–noun

an act or instance of choosing, selection;

the right, power, or opportunity to choose;

option carefully selected

Choice – therein lies the problem.  That is where you need to take personal responsibility.  You truly are the only one who can choose for you.

Yes, I understand there are pressures.  I myself feel compelled to do or say certain things I may not really want to but when it gets right down to it…you and you alone are responsible for who you are and what you do.

It is your day by day actions that speak louder than words.  Again, guilty of that one.  I have voiced my opinion one way and acted another.  It’s easier to say than do?  Totally true.

So, at the end of the day it can be said that your parents tried to mold your character as they saw right but it doesn’t always work out that way.  You can choose to live by and adopt their values or you can choose not to.  I am not saying either way is right or wrong, I’m saying the choice is yours, you decide what kind of person to be.

What do you think?  Do you see situations that might argue against this theory?

Toodles – Blog Happy!

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In My Opinion

If I were asked to impart one single piece of advice to newbies starting out in the sales world, it would be to get some sort of formal sales training.   When I first started out in the insurance business I worked for Metropolitan.  Mother Met as she was referred to.

Mother Met was the foundation of my sales training.  To this day, I use the training I received in every day life as well as business.

Formal sales training can mean the difference between success and failure or simply doing it the hard way!

Toodles – Blog Happy!

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Here Today, Gone Tomorrow?

What will happen to the traditional higher education institute in the near future?

Especially in today’s economy, the old brick and mortar institutions may be a thing of the past.

Not only is it extremely convenient to access your coursework anywhere, anytime but it is crucial to have interaction with your professors on a one on one basis.  Earning your graduate degree online is a great opportunity for busy professionals and possibly the best option.

Experienced teaching professionals looking for an online  MS Curriculum need look no further.  The online Master of Arts in Curriculum program offers a comprehensive array of techniques for the new instructional topics and perspectives of education.

Another great value of an online school?  You can attend any university anywhere right from your own living room.  Good luck in all your future endeavors!

Toodles – Blog Happy!

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Defeat Is Not The Worst..

“Monday Motivation!”

Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure.

~ George Edward Woodberry

You know I have said time and again “What’s the worst that can happen?” in regards to making decisions. If you have that attitude and use that philosophy to guide you with your choices, and you can live with whatever the “worst” is, then it is easier to go for it.

It sounds so easy. In order to succeed your desire for success has to be stronger than your fear of failure.  These type of quotes must speak to me loudly because I usually choose them.

It does resonate with me because fear stops me from doing a lot of things. Most of the time I don’t even know what I am afraid of.  Sometimes I think I have somewhat pinpointed the fear or think I know what is stopping me, but it usually sounds so silly that I don’t believe I have realized what the fear is.

• Fear of failure.

• What will people think?

• I will look silly.

These are all “who cares” excuses.   I have been amazed with myself at my courage with some events in my life and have also been just as amazed at the extreme paralyzing fear that has stopped me from the smallest challenges.

So what really stops a person from trying to be successful?  All of the above and then some.  What can  a person do to overcome these fears?

Usually previous successes  inspire me to try new challenges.  If I can pull that off, I can certainly do this.

This post doesn’t have all the answers.  More like all the questions.

What do you do to overcome your fears?  What drives you to face your challenges?

Toodles – Blog Happy!

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