Be Who You Are
February 9, 2009 by BloggerNewbie
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“Be who you are and be that well…”
~ Saint Francis de Sales
Be who you are and be that well. Sounds easy to me. Who else are you going to be anyway? One would think that being who you are is a natural flow. That being who you are is the easy way out. That being someone you aren’t would require a lot of time and skill.
Yes and no.
Very often, being yourself takes courage. What if they don’t like me? What if I say something or do something stupid? So being someone else or being something that you are not may be the easy way out.
It doesn’t make sense to pretend to be something or someone you are not. People can only be fake for so long then the “real you” will eventually come out. When you grow into your comfort zone with someone, the real you settles in, slow but sure. Imagine the shock of the other person when suddenly the little habits you once found so charming are now annoying to you? What happened, she used to think it was cute when I left the toilet seat up?
In order to be who you are and be that well you need to know – Who are you?
Sounds like a silly question to some. It is actually quite serious. It is almost as difficult of a question to answer as “what do you want”. I like to listen to my inner voice to guide me as to who I am. I used to think I liked to paint and paper walls, turns out I just liked having it done.
It is often a struggle to be who you are when it conflicts with others opinions or wants. There can be confrontations that make you uncomfortable. You have to ask yourself, what is more important – to be who I am or to be who someone else wants me to be? We all know what that answer is.
When I struggle with who I am I remember and reflect on the two most powerful words . Whatever I want, I am whatever I want to be, whatever I set my mind to be. If you focus on who you are you are more successful of being who you are well.
I believe that if you be who you are and be that well people around you will appreciate the real authentic you sincerely and wholeheartedly.
Do you remember the last time you realized someone was not who you thought they were? More importantly, do you remember the last time you realized you were not being who you really are?
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George:
At first thought, being who you are sounds effortless, but you are right, it does take some courage and effort at times. It does, however, make sense to be true to yourself. Thanks for the RT!
Nice post. As i’m reading the last paragraph i’m answering your questions… i do remember the last time someone wasn’t who i thought they were.. Its hard to believe you can like someone for who they are, for a good amount of time, only to find out thats not really who they are..
Dee
As you say ‘Who am I’ is probably one of the hardest questions to anwswer – if not THE hardest – especially when you ask it deeply. I don’t know who I am yet, but have at least this lifetime to find some answers. I can remember many times when I was not who I want to be – when I was selfish, greedy, arrogant … etc. etc.. and didn’t much like myself.
As you say .. I am who I am .. who else am I going to be?
Yes I remember the last time you realized someone was not who you thought they were? More importantly, do you remember the last time you realized you were not being who you really are.
He and I dated for 41/2 years, but were only engaged for 2 months before everything crumbled to pieces. Once the commitment and threat of permanence was on the table true colors began to appear and neither one of us liked what we saw.
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Danielle:
and what good is that? It’s not good for you or good for them. It’s a lose/lose situation!
Ian:
Sometimes I see people who “seem” to have it all together? They know their passions, their likes, dislikes, where they are going and how they are going to get there! And I often struggle with “the purpose” not being fulfilled. What difference do I make? I don’t necessarily want to change the world, well maybe my small world but I would like to feel more comfortable in my own skin if that makes sense?
I would dare say we all have days we’d rather not discuss but for the most part it isn’t even how good of a person I feel – I am that I struggle with because as we say, we are who we are. I think I have way too many things I HAVE to do than WANT to do? and then I’m not sure what the wants are anyway?? This is probably a whole other post…
Debo Hobo:
That is not even close to funny but it does remind me of one of my past relationships that still amazes me – I lived with my husband for TEN plus years, we were married before memorial day weekend one year and before labor day weekend that year I was filing for divorce. I couldn’t believe it, I still don’t believe it. All is well that ends well but my mouth is still wide open from that one. Just amazing!
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This reminds me of the quote by Judy Garland, “Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second rate version of someone else.”
Nice post!
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That’s a great quote. I like that too and yes, it speaks loudly. Thanks for stopping by.
I learned that I was not all that domestic after I decided to leave my job and stay home with my daughter after she was born. I enjoyed being with her but all the household stuff bored me to tears and I just wanted to get back to fixing computers. I was just never going to make a cake that looked like a school bus
I can’t think of anyone right now who wasn’t what I thought he was … well, maybe one person but I don’t want to get into that right now.
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Kim:
I have learned a few things about myself after I figured out I did or didn’t really like doing something.
I think we are probably all guilty of being someone or something that is not true to self, some more than others and still some longer than others. Fortunately, most times it is not real significant.