Who Are You?
November 12, 2008 by BloggerNewbie
Who are you?
Can you answer that question? Do you even know who you are? It’s easy to lose yourself in society today. All the pressures to conform to, all the social roles we are supposed to “belong” to.
How do you achieve the balance of your authentic self and the expectation of society? How do you overcome the struggle of keeping the real you?
Whenever you are struggling with the real you, just repeat the two most powerful words to yourself. Tell yourself who you are, because only you can say “I AM”.
That is so easy to say and so hard to do. I guess that saying is true with most things. But if you are doing something and you have that - “this does not feel right” - feeling, then STOP! I do not think I have ever had that “no” feeling and have ever been wrong. You know how sometimes you second guess yourself? Well don’t!
On the journey to the rediscovery of yourself you will need to set new boundaries and some people in your life are not going to like this! They will resist your efforts but you must stay tough and keep your stand! I read a couple of great books - Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
The Dance of Anger was especially interesting as the metaphor describes every day life. If you keep dancing the same dance you will get the same results. Nothing will change unless you change your steps. If you continue to react the same way to the same situation you will get the same result. It’s like the definition of “stupid”, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. I don’t like the word “stupid” but I do like the rest of the explanation.
How do you maintain the real you?
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That book sounds interesting. I wish i had five minutes to read it.
Good Morning Danielle
Actually both books were really good. It’s been awhile since I have read either of them. The Dance of Anger had that simple metaphor that stuck with me. I have both books if you ever find 5 minutes. One of the tag lines on the book says something about women and intimate relationships but really, the dance can be changed with anyone.
Wow, heavy post! Interesting stuff… Actually I watched a movie tonight where through a series of events, someone completely changed their personality and habits. I was wondering about it later - how easy is it to do this, and how much of “me” is so ingrained that I would find it difficult to change?
I think for me personally there are some aspects of me that I feel are unique & won’t change, regardless of expectations of society etc.. I maintain the ‘real me’ by holding true to my morals and values, and always trying to stay positive regardless of when I’m dealt blows in life!
I agree with how you have put an emphasis on boundaries - once you let things slip, it’s hard to show others consistency of your standards. Hold true to what you believe in, and stay strong!
Cheers
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Sometimes trying to make everyone happy leaves you out in the cold and certainly not happy. Setting boundaries in an established relationship can be challenging. Messes with the comfort zone! Anything worth doing can be difficult but eventually worth the effort!
However, a change in personality comes naturally given a time when you choose to step up and take the lead in the given season.
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People are always changing as they grow and that is usually a good thing. Changing for you is the key not for someone else.
Absolutely boundaries are key to keeping the essence of ones self in tack.
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Hello Debo!
I need to create bigger boundaries, walls with some people! he he! There are so many people that are the type that can dish it out but can’t take it, I don’t want to do that for you but I want you to do that for me! yeah right.